Thursday, November 5, 2015

You know you're a special needs mom...

Because independence here opens
up the world in so many, many ways!
when the following email from your autistic daughter's first grade teacher makes you go into a full-fledged happy tears moment for 5 full minutes.

I wanted to tell you of something that was pretty exciting today.  Out on the playground Princess was tugging on Mrs. F., so she prompted  "I want.....".  It took about 5 prompts, but then Princess said "I want potty".  She brought her in, and Princess independently went to the restroom.  It was great to see her recognizing her need for the bathroom, and advocating for herself!

Imagining my little girl in a situation where she's actually verbalizing her needs and advocating for herself - this, this is what we work so hard for. This is a moment, I've been waiting for literally years to see or hear about. I can't tell you how proud of that little girl I am right now.

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Unsolicited advice...

That moment when you realize the Master tape of that very special day wasn't in the safe like you thought....

The advice?  Always, always have a great photographer (we didn't which means we were relying on the great video our daughters would see someday) and do backups of your backups. Just because it's digital doesn't mean you can't lose it. 

We had great raw footage of our wedding once. 

Back it up!

Sunday, August 16, 2015

Milestone Saturday

The statement "I want to sleep in my own room" by Sunshine triplet has moved to reality. Bedtime song for triplets happened in a room with 2 beds and a pillow where "kids who don't sleep in this room can sit," she said. Tears for Mommy, they're growing up and getting more independent every day. 

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Dining in public... a story of compassion

They called out to her,
practically by name, I'm sure.
So with all the crazy kids in restaurants and the public's frustration with their antics, I thought I'd share this. On Monday my 6-1/2 year old (who has autism, by the way, if this is the first time you've ever seen my blog), got tired of waiting for food at the sub shop, although I was paying for it just 3 feet away. Instead, the chips at the next table called out to her.

I saw her leave the table and shouted NO! but before I could stop her a grubby little hand reached into a stranger's Doritos bag and grabbed out five chips at a time. (It was totally like the movies, like it was being shot in slow motion or something. NOOOOOO! And you turn and try to stop it, only to be too late).

Totally embarrassed, I offered to buy the two ladies another bag of chips but they refused to hear of it. (They saw I had triplets, but I never mentioned there was autism in the mix at all).There was no judgment, there was simply compassion.  And for that they were thanked at least three times by me. 

It is my hope that everyone who has small children or children with special needs and dares to go out to a restaurant, would be greeted by customers, strangers, as compassionate as these. Thank you kind strangers, you really sort of made my day. And I'm positive you made Angel triplet's day because Mommy doesn't even let her eat those chips normally.

Friday, June 26, 2015

I took them to a park all by myself!

Today was the first day I felt comfortable taking the triplets to play at a park all by myself. Triplets + autism for 2 of the 3 and we hit a major milestone for Tripped Up Mommy today. Feeling hopeful!

You finally took them to a park? Yes, me, alone took my trio to a local school playground all by myself without feeling like I needed Grandma or my oldest daughter or another adult or a friendly teen to be there just in case somebody takes off running. All 3 engaged with the playground equipment functionally, including my two with autism. There was even some social play occurring. For the first time ever, this Mother of multiples felt empowered and not scared to death of elopement at a park. It may seem late to others but given all of our variables, I was beginning to wonder if it could ever happen! Full disclosure: there is a fence around much of playground, however it's a huge area and the fence still allows escape points.