Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Unsolicited advice...

That moment when you realize the Master tape of that very special day wasn't in the safe like you thought....

The advice?  Always, always have a great photographer (we didn't which means we were relying on the great video our daughters would see someday) and do backups of your backups. Just because it's digital doesn't mean you can't lose it. 

We had great raw footage of our wedding once. 

Back it up!

Sunday, August 16, 2015

Milestone Saturday

The statement "I want to sleep in my own room" by Sunshine triplet has moved to reality. Bedtime song for triplets happened in a room with 2 beds and a pillow where "kids who don't sleep in this room can sit," she said. Tears for Mommy, they're growing up and getting more independent every day. 

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Dining in public... a story of compassion

They called out to her,
practically by name, I'm sure.
So with all the crazy kids in restaurants and the public's frustration with their antics, I thought I'd share this. On Monday my 6-1/2 year old (who has autism, by the way, if this is the first time you've ever seen my blog), got tired of waiting for food at the sub shop, although I was paying for it just 3 feet away. Instead, the chips at the next table called out to her.

I saw her leave the table and shouted NO! but before I could stop her a grubby little hand reached into a stranger's Doritos bag and grabbed out five chips at a time. (It was totally like the movies, like it was being shot in slow motion or something. NOOOOOO! And you turn and try to stop it, only to be too late).

Totally embarrassed, I offered to buy the two ladies another bag of chips but they refused to hear of it. (They saw I had triplets, but I never mentioned there was autism in the mix at all).There was no judgment, there was simply compassion.  And for that they were thanked at least three times by me. 

It is my hope that everyone who has small children or children with special needs and dares to go out to a restaurant, would be greeted by customers, strangers, as compassionate as these. Thank you kind strangers, you really sort of made my day. And I'm positive you made Angel triplet's day because Mommy doesn't even let her eat those chips normally.

Friday, June 26, 2015

I took them to a park all by myself!

Today was the first day I felt comfortable taking the triplets to play at a park all by myself. Triplets + autism for 2 of the 3 and we hit a major milestone for Tripped Up Mommy today. Feeling hopeful!

You finally took them to a park? Yes, me, alone took my trio to a local school playground all by myself without feeling like I needed Grandma or my oldest daughter or another adult or a friendly teen to be there just in case somebody takes off running. All 3 engaged with the playground equipment functionally, including my two with autism. There was even some social play occurring. For the first time ever, this Mother of multiples felt empowered and not scared to death of elopement at a park. It may seem late to others but given all of our variables, I was beginning to wonder if it could ever happen! Full disclosure: there is a fence around much of playground, however it's a huge area and the fence still allows escape points.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Be gentle today...

Be gentle with yourself and others today. Today, Fathers Day 2015, like every other good and beautiful holiday comes with its residual sense of pain too for almost everyone you see.

None of us travel through life without getting hurt and on days like today bumps and bruises, even those long healed, can somehow rise to the surface and make the memory of their presence known profoundly. For others still struggling to heal or just beginning to heal, the pain today brings is far more fresh.

So be gentle with yourself and others today because you may be interacting with:

  • A stepfather who has never had the honor of spending Father's Day with his stepchildren and can't help missing them as he receives his gifts from his own children.
  • A daughter whose father chose to take his own life and never walked her down the aisle at her wedding. Even though it hurts a little less each year, it also hurts a little more as she sees how many memories she now has without her dad.
  • A child of divorce torn between the love he holds for both his blended families and the frustration of feeling that he can never share that love wth all of them at once.
  • A mom whose husband has left her for somone else and doesn't care to share Father's Day with their children anymore. 
  • A new father struggling to understand what fatherhood means since he never knew his own.
  • A widow who looks at her family and wishes she could hold their Daddy's hand one last time.
The list could go on and I'm sure we can all add our own bump, bruise, or even deep wound that gets opened today. So be gentle with yourself and others - a few extra hugs may go a very long way today.